Kawin...Oh Kawin....

Assalamualaikum...


Hello u'olls... Wassup? Happy weekend everybody!! My baby was sleeping and hubby is off to college.. So I nyempat2 kan diri spending some time to write something..


Ok, lets talk about our topic of the day.. Kawin (err...actually this is spelled wrongly. It's supposed to be "Kahwin" ye.. Hahaha..). In english it means Marry, wedding and yg berkaitan..

I was blogwalking the other day and stuck in this one blog of somebody (atas sebab2
keselamatan, nama dirahsiakan.. ). Don't worry, definitely not those yg baca blog I nih.. Eh, kira ngumpat ke hah? Tapi tak sebut nama tak pe kan...?? Hihihi...

The blog is FULL (and I really mean it...) of this makhlukat's stories about her wedding.. Yess, her wedding is SOOOOOO grand and she is SOOOOO proud of it.. It was like, she got her dreamed wedding la... Bajet wedding of the year la..

Reading her stories bout the wedding receptions (usually in Malay culture when there is 's' in the reception word indicates '2'. One for the bride side, the other for the groom's, but for her case, the plural indicates >2... Seriously, I tak tipu...), the preparations, the photoshots, the videoshots, the everything-wedding-related stuff la..., got me thinking, berapa juta agaknya she and hubby and family (biasanya keje2 kawin nih family mesti ada contribution sket. So masuk nama 'family' in the shareholders skali..Hehe) spent to make that so-called 'wedding-of-fairy-tale' to come true...

ALTHOUGH, she might come from a very-the-kaya family (which I don't think so, based on my background research... Serious, mak sibuk gile kan I nih? Hahaha..), or maybe she boom-boom-pow her hubby kaw-kaw punya just to make her dreamed wedding to be reality (her hubby mmg kaya la.. Keje off-shore kot!!), either way, from my point of view, it was totally PEMBAZIRAN....

I know, some might 'boo'ing me like crazy now, but, 'WHATEVA..', this is my blog what.. I'm free to share what I think.. Hihihi..

As for me, wedding is not merely about reception, glamorous, and stuff.. There's much more about wedding or getting married that we should focus on.. There's a lot more sweet and beautiful things in the 'getting'married' tuh sendiri..Kan? Kan?

1st thing 1st, the purpose of getting married itself.. To halallize (this word is inspired by Ustaz Abdi, IIUM.. lol) what is supposedly to be haram.. A boy and a girl, who is not muhrim to each other, by default is haram to be together, rite? I mean, they shouldn't touching-touching, meroenggeng sana-sini berdua sampai malam buta, ride motorcycle together-gether.. Those actions are prohibited in Islam.. Kan? Kan? By getting married, they got instant green light to do those things.. Aren't you guys feel that is SWEET already???

Then the reception, from what I understood, the concept of the 'kenduri' is actually to tell peoples around; neighbours, family, friends etc, that you guys are married and halal already. To avoid fitnah.. U know, things like, "Hang tau, anak si pulan tuh, dok berkepit ngan jantan mana tah, tunggang moto, tuh dia cam belangkas punya rapat..", to be happening just because the makcik didn't aware that actually 'anak si pulan' tuh dah kawin dengan 'anak si pulan2'..
That's SUPPOSE to be the real intention.. (kalo concept saya salah, feel free to correct me..).

So, for me, it doesn't have to be like REAL GRAND and spend like 'millions' just for it... I know you guys ada banyak duit to spend (not like me and hubby yg tak-berapa-nak-kaya-tapi-Alhamdulillah la..), but you better save the money yg berkoyan-koyan tuh for other things later after you guys got married and ada anak later.. Benda-benda yg lebih bermanfaat.. Tak tau ke tuition fee for college (or even school) nowadays is not cheap?? Save for that! At least for our children's future!!

Or even worse, if you take personal loan just to ensure your wedding is superb and super-grand and will be praised,like, over the year by friends and people around.. Is it really necessary??? Naaaahhhh, I don't think so...

What ever it is, this is just my opinion... As for me, the most wonderful thing about wedding and marriage is the union between me and hubby. The togetherness. Getting the green light to dating sakan... Having the access to snap pictures peluk-peluk (iyewww..gross, aite? Hahaha..). Yeah of course we always want something that is memorable. But it doesn't have to be TOO excessive... Duit bukan utk tuh je, mak ngah oiii.. Banyak lagi menda nak kena pakai duit later on...

So, guess tuh je la kot I membebel pasal kawin (pjg kot bebelan ini!).. Wakakaka...


(Image courtesy of Mr Google)


till next time.. Bye.. Wassalam..


Note out of topic : Teringin nak wat family photoshoot. 3 of us... Fatin, hubby and me.. Simple-simple je la.. Tapi budget bulan nih dah fully allocated for 'that something'. Maybe next month.. Hihihihi... Ehhh, photoshoot family tak kira membazir kot ek??? Hehehe...